Be a Good Sister
Saturday, October 18, 2008 @ 10:03 PM
I think that having a good relationship between your siblings is really important. Siblings can understand you the most (for example, when you had an argument with your parents), and give helpful advice, as well. You can share basically anything with them, even things, which you wouldn't talk about with your parents. But you should also give something in return.
You should be a good sister. Wonder how to do that?
First of all,
ALWAYS remember your sibling's birthday. It's a must. I bet you would feel quite sad, too, if your brother/sister would forget yours. Buy or make your sibling a nice present (it doesn't have to be expensive, duh!). I bought a Spongebob clock to my brother when he was 17. He loved it, and still treasures it. For his 16th birthday I gave him a pillowcase with a picture of him and me printed on it.
Be creative!Don't lose touch with your sibling! Be sure to listen to their problems, and try to help them out.
Talk with them whenever you can, and try not to argue too much. If I have a busy day (which I happen to have often), I still go to my bro's room at night, when I'm done with learning, and ask him how things are going. Even if he is chatting with his friends, he always tells me the important things, and asks my opinion about it. He often comes to me to ask if the clothes he is wearing look good on him, and what tips would I give. I think it's awesome.
I didn't have this good relationship some years ago. We got along, trusted each other, but didn't share every little piece of our lives. Now it's different.
I decided to become a better sister when I was about 11. I wanted to become The Good Sister. For everyone's sake.
When your sibling's friends come over, make popcorn for them, or give them a packet of crips, etc. (In a bowl - be exacting!) You can also make fruit salad, lots of people love that.
Rate of effectiveness: 5/5
Comments: Your siblings and his/her friends will remember you, for sure. They will know that your brother/sister has got That Cute Sister Who is Always So Kind. Pretty worth it.
Don't compete with your sibling. Waste of energy, and your relationship won't get better, either. Also,
NEVER lie to them. (I guess we can make white lies an exception.)
If you have got a younger sister or brother,
help them out with homework. Explain it to them clearly, but
don't tell them the answers to the questions. They have to solve them theirselves.
Try to make lots of activities with them! Go to concerts/cinema together, play sports, things like these. (I go to the cinema every second week with my sisters, and I tell you, it's effective. We make lots of memories, even if it's about sitting in a dark room watching a movie while eating popcorn.)
All in all,
becoming your sibling's friend is the key. But you must treasure this kind of friendship, and
never ever let it go.
Labels: family, siblings
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Getting A Simple Job
Saturday, October 11, 2008 @ 8:41 PM
Right now,
I'm searching for a simple job, which I can do at weekends. During weekdays, I have to learn, so... let's skip those days, if possible.
My mother is seriously against it, but I just need money for new clothes (about 60% of my clothes are outworn already!), for dance class, hair dresser, and so on... and I can't blame my mother for being a teacher and not getting high payment. Not to mention the fact, that we are moving soon, and we just bought some new furnitures, which, we all know, cost much.
"Dan was really mad at me, because I couldn't give him much pocket money."
"I see."
But actually, I'm in need of it, too, but I just couldn't ask for more."You know, this whole moving, paying the bills, buying the furnitures, and everything... the prices are going up fast, you know!"
"I know. But I'll need to sign up for dance class tomorrow, and I need to pay for it, too..."
"I remember. That will be another problem in the future... maybe I'll need to deduct it from your pocket money."
"Don't worry, I'm looking for a part-time job right now. I can give out leaflets at weekends, and that might be some help."
"What are you talking about? You need to learn. And anyway, there's no way I would allow you to spend hours alone around wierd and dangerous people!"
"I don't need your approval. I'm over 16. Get over it."
This is pretty much how it went.
Awkward. But I'm not like Dan, my brother. When I need something, I always find a way to get it, and normally, I do everything on my own. I remember the first time, when I decided to highlight my hair. I was always telling my mother that one day, I'll do it, but she just didn't take me serious. So, when I went home with a new hairstyle, she was REALLY surprised. But she didn't get mad. Instead, she was smiling.
So, I already
registered myself to a student employment system, and I'm going to call them on Monday. Please cheer for me! I want to get a/the job. Even if it's a miserable one.
My step-dad asked me if I was serious about the whole thing, and told me that he can give me money, if that's what I need, but I shouldn't tell my mother, or she'll get upset.
No thanks, I want to do this relying on myself. I'm a school girl, who is on her way to growing up.Labels: family, jobs, rima, work
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Helping Out At Home
Wednesday, September 17, 2008 @ 4:49 PM
This in an important part of a healthy family lifestyle, and even though it is sometimes a bother, you shouldn' ignore it. Washing the dishes, sweeping and vacuuming only take about 10 minutes and your parents will appreciate them, for sure. These will also prepare you for parenting and work, so you are not doing this (only) for others.
When they ask you to do something, don't start a fight. Think about it this way: it can't be helped. If you are negative, nothing will change. So why not put a smile on your face and do your work?
If you don't know where to start, here are some ideas.1. Take out the trash. It only takes about 2 minutes and it's a really big help to your parents.
2. Help your siblings. If they are younger than you, help them get dressed and stuff like that.
3. Help out with shopping.
4. Make your bed each morning. This will show your parents that you can be responsible, as well. Makes you look more organized.
5. When there is a visitor at your place (relative, sibling's friend, etc.) offer to make them a drink and give them snacks.
Do some chores everyday, and you will soon see how much easier it is to get along with everyone in your family. I bet you won't get tired by helping out for some minutes, so don't be lazy, girls!
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Being An Only Child?
Tuesday, September 16, 2008 @ 6:38 PM
Are you an only child? If yes, do you like being one or would you rather have a brother or a sister? If you already have one (two, three...), are you happy to have them by your side?Personally, I have got one older brother and two younger step-sisters. But I only see my sisters every second weekend. Yes, it's complicated. I think I would not be able to stay sane if I wouldn't have my brother, and I'm also relieved that I have someone to talk about "girly" stuff, too. I bet our holidays would be sooo boring if we wouldn't have such a wierd family with lots of different people. I remember being pitied by classmates in elementary school, because of having step-sisters. At first, it was hard to accept them and I'm sure that they felt the same way, too. But I've known them for about 10 years now, and they are a part of my world, so I don't need any commiseration. :/
If you are an only child, don't you feel lonely at times? Or do you think you are better off alone? I wonder what kind of person would I be if I'd have to live without my brother and sisters. Wierd. But interesting! Enjoying the attention of your parents, having even more friends (it's a fact that only children have more - I've made a small research). Some of them don't have to do so many jobs around the house, and another good point is that... you get to eat all the popcorn/chips/whatever in the packet!
However, there is no one else to blame if something goes wrong and there is too much pressure, as well. And here comes that part again with being alone at weekends and holidays.
"Parents of only children have more time to focus on the general aspects of child development and learning issues and can give their child that individual attention that makes such a difference.
Studies have proven that only children often do better in life for the same reasons that first-borns do. First-borns have their parents’ individual attention for those important first few years and therefore benefit from greater stimulation. As a result, first-borns are often higher achievers in later life."
I don't think that there is a "better" situation when it comes to being or not being an only child. We have to deal with life in our ways, anyway, no matter how many people are around us. And both of them come with so many advantages and disadvantages. Troublesome.
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